Inspiration & Motivation

INSPIRING WOMEN: Iman Hassan

Iman Hassan will always be “Lena” to me. In the summer of 2008, we were camp counselors at Concordia Language Villages. Both speaking German, we were in the German immersion camp – Waldsee. Staff and campers all choose German names. She was Lena. I was Heike. So, that’s why it still feels odd thinking of her as Iman.

Being new camp counselors made for one interesting summer! Neither she nor I had even been to Waldsee as campers like most of the other counselors, so it was a lot to get used to! I was happy to be placed in a cabin with Lena for most of the summer.

There were so many fun and silly memories at Waldsee. A highly dramatic encounter with a Fledermaus, an educational reenactment of a divided East and West Germany that must have been a terrible way to spend the 4th of July if you were a camper stuck in Ostdeutschland, silly but sentimental songs and skits (including a German “remix” to “We’re All in This Together’ from High School Musical – which wildly popular that year), late night convos among counselors once kids went to bed, weekends out at the (only) local country bar. And, one of my fondest memories – an epic camper and counselor version of “The Dating Game” where our cabin won (I think!) but likely because I mouthed the answers to Iman. I was kind of sad but mostly happy to return home to civilization after my 6 week session. Iman stayed much longer – she certainly caught more of a Waldsee bug than I did ;)!

Iman is incredibly smart, stylish, beautiful, brilliant, classy, strong, and warm.

I’ll be honest - Iman always seemed like my missed connection BFF. There aren't a whole lot of social justice centered, German & Global Studies major, fashion forward, world traveling women in Minnesota. We have quite a bit in common. Although – Iman beats me in the style category all day…every day. And, I pride myself on my sense of style so that’s saying a lot about this lady’s fashion!

I admire Iman’s commitment to social issues, her language skills (both in writing – example below) and her ability to speak multiple languages, as well as her commitment to her family and sisters. Although she’s on and off social media, when she’s on all I see are the beautiful and brilliant Hassan women popping up on my newsfeed.

 I look forward to staying connected with Iman. I am inspired by her style, brilliance, and grace.

Iman shared her responses about what inspires her in different way. I love her poetic and dynamic words so I wanted to leave them be. . .

What inspires you?

I come from a lineage of poets, nomads, and survivors of droughts. The multifaceted identity that I live today is a byproduct of my unintended and unwanted international nomadic life as a refugee. The refugee experience is at the epicenter of my identity. War, famine, and terror penetrated the first half of my childhood due to the unstable conditions of my birthplace.

This fortuitous constellation of events led me to the largest somali diaspora in the United States. Normative notions of national identity and feeling of home and safety were quickly revoked from my family. My grandfather was a nomad, yet this type of journey and displacement felt unnatural to my family.

In middle school I quickly became aware of my painful alien existence in the post-911 era. I lost myself in the world of academia. This formed an invisible layer that created an absence of annoyance at school. At the time, I had no words for racism and xenophobia. I hardly acquired words for mundane objects such as ruler, or pen due to my novice ESL status. Everyday a new word, concept, and cultural experience distracted me from the strenuous racist discourse of my peers. It was exciting to me, all of it. I loved the process of learning a new language and connecting to a foreign culture. The arduous potpourri of conditions and struggles as a foreigner faded away due to my love for school and the education that seemed like a constant gift to me. I eagerly threw myself on every assignment and challenge that the American school system presented to me.

Being black, foreign, and Muslim made for a particular kind of academic determination. I possessed an arrogant gentleness in the classroom that later developed into charismatic eagerness. The power behind my voice grew stronger with every book that I devoured.

Later, I stumbled upon my first love; the great writers of Sturm und Drang, and continued a tumultuous, painful relationship with my German enlightenment philosophers. My great loves were eventually deconstructed, and heavily questioned in my postmodern feminist reading of Horkheimer and Adorno’s Dialectic of Enlightenment. However, I still credit Novalis, Brecht, and Kant for my initial attraction to German philosophical discourse. As a first-generation college student I began my journey as a German and Global studies major at the University of Minnesota.

Every classroom nourished my deep concerns for gender equality, inclusiveness, and the systematic deconstruction of the oppressive forces I personally felt in my community. The essence of my identity has always been a political formation never absent of global and local activism. My studies allowed me to make sense of what I lived. Instead of suffering from the political abhorrence that undocumented immigrants face, I became a benefactor and product of international law. My past, my present, and my future are in direct connection to the political succor that the legal construction of the refugee status provides. The international legal community created a very thin membrane between asylum-seeker and undocumented immigrant. This socio-political legal construction of the refugee fascinates me on multiple levels because of my personal experience with the ubuesque minefield that one has to overcome to reach this status.
— Iman Hassan

This March, I am celebrating all the amazing women around me! Sharing women who have influenced me and make up my personal history. As the month goes on, you can see all my Inspiring Women posts here!

INSPIRING WOMEN: Noora Pajari

Noora Pajari and I studied together for a semester at the Universität Trier in Trier, Germany. Noora, who is from Finland, was also studying abroad in spring/summer of 2010. Through our adventures in Germany and now, as I stay connected with her online, I really appreciate Noora as a global citizen working for good and as an awesome lady to have in my circle!

When I studied in Trier, it was my second time in Germany. My exchange year in Frankfurt between high school and college (2005-2006) was a difficult and wonderful journey full of new experiences, challenges, and interactions. When I returned to Germany the second time to study abroad while I was in college, all that transitional stuff was old news. I’d been there. . . done that. I went in already very comfortable in conversational German, had knowledge of basic German systems (transportation, bureaucracy, recycling, etc), and, generally, felt really quite at home. For that reason, I wasn’t all about clinging to other Americans, going out every night, and trying to be besties with all of the other international students. From the beginning, I knew I just wanted to find a few quality folks to spend my time with! Well, I did find some quality ladies to hang with and, naturally, Noora was in that group.

Noora is warm, independent, chic, concerned about world issues, open, and really fun!

Noora is a 28 year old gal, living and working In Tampere, Finland. She graduated from university a year ago and says that she’s currently getting used to "adult life" - working full-time, living in the apartment she actually owns, waking up early almost every morning & balancing between busy work weeks, doing sports and spending time with friends. 

Noora is interested in politics and development issues.  She hopes for world peace (all beauty contest clichés aside ;)!). At the Finnish Red Cross, where she is currently employed, Noora helps volunteers engage in dialogue between different generations. In the future, she hopes to work abroad. Noora also looooves traveling! Her next travel destination is Florida for her first visit to the United States! I’m excited to meet up with her while she is here!

Noora is very active and often spends time doing sport activities like soccer and working out.  Noora has got into kayaking and Cross Fit – she says that doing sports keeps her mind and body active!

Like I mentioned, Noora was part of my close friend group while studying in Trier. Noora, Angie from the US and, often, Eftehyia from Greece made up our crew. We had a lot of fun together – partying, of course, but also taking trips, going to work-out classes in the university’s sport hall, dining together, and Noora and I also took a terribly challenging political science course about American foreign politics under President Obama. (Which I studied extra hard for because Noora and all of the other poli sci brainic Germans knew way more about my county’s government and history than I did!)

Before I flew home from my semester in Trier, I did some traveling! One place I traveled was to Tampere, Finland to visit Noora! It was THE best trip. I just felt instantly at home in Tampere.

Maybe I was feeling nostalgic for Minnesota, but Finland reminded me of home! (In fact, Finland is referred to as the “Land of a Thousand Lakes” and Minnesota’s state nickname is “The Land of 10,000 Lakes!” Crazy, huh?) Plus, Noora and her family made me feel so welcome! That short trip to Finland was a highlight of my semester in Europe in 2010.

I can’t wait to reconnect with Noora when she visits Florida this summer! And, I hope to remain connected to her as I know she will always be traveling and living in fabulous places while making a positive on our world. 

What inspires you?

I get inspired by helping other people. I really admire people doing humanitarian aid work both in their home countries and abroad. I feel that I have been so lucky being born in Finland into a family with loving parents and two brothers. Even though we haven´t been rich, I got everything I ever wanted, which taught me that happiness isn´t anything material. We didn´t have any spare money but I got into university and graduated with a master’s degree in social sciences. Free education and health care are the things I´m most grateful for. These are the reasons why I want to work for helping others - I want other people to feel the same happiness and to have the same opportunities as I did.”

Who are women in your life or throughout history who inspire you?

The women who inspire me are the ones who are brave and willing to break boundaries. Women, who are strong but still have the courage to show empathy. It´s hard to name just one, but, for example, I admire the first Finnish female president, Tarja Halonen. She held the office 12 years while concentrating on human rights, democracy and civil society. “

If you had one piece of advice to your younger self, what would it be and why?

“10 years ago I was 18 years old. If I could, I would say to myself that be brave enough to be yourself. Don´t try to please everybody. You don´t have to be friends with everyone. Cherish friendships that empower you. And I also would like to say that take more chances, it doesn´t matter if you fail. You learn from mistakes. Life happens now, live in the moment.”

And, a few brilliant words of advice from Noora:

“The most important thing in life is being happy. When YOU are happy, the people around you become happy. Don´t expect a guy or money to solve your problems. The solution lies in YOU. So do things you really like, take chances, show up more often. As my favorite author Paulo Coelho has said: "The only thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure." When you allow yourself to shine, it shows.” [I couldn’t agree more!]


(The photo above was taken at almost 11PM in Finland - before we went out. In the summer, they have crazy long days! When we returned, around 3AM, the sun was rising!) 


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This March, I am celebrating all the amazing women around me! Sharing women who have influenced me and make up my personal history. As the month goes on, you can see all my Inspiring Women posts here!

INSPIRING WOMEN: Anusha Goud

Anusha Goud is part of my circle through our connections at Texas A&M University-Commerce (TAMUC).  Anusha was an undergraduate student at TAMUC while I was working there and earning my master’s degree. She was always one of my favorite people in Commerce and, throughout my two years there, I was fortunate to spend a lot of time with her.  Anusha was a dependable student worker, a strong leader on campus, and THE best person to get caught up in conversation with!

 Anusha is dependable, strategic, socially conscious, capable, supportive, and savvy.

Anusha is 23 and lives in San Antonio, Texas. She works as a Patient Advocate for a growing healthcare group while furthering her education. She was born and raised in the United States by philanthropic, Indian parents who do charity work around the world while running their own medical business. She also has an older brother named Adarsh who is finishing up his residency to become a doctor of medicine.

Medicine was sort of Anusha’s “intended path”. She went to Health Careers High School in San Antonio, Texas under the assumption that she would become a doctor and what she describes as following the dreams of her parents and adhering to societal norms for an Asian American in the US.

Although initially attending TAMUC on a pre-med track, Anusha got very involved with various student organizations and decided to add a second major of Sociology. (Sociology majors are ALWAYS my fav, y’all!) Unlike many folks in rural North East Texas, Anusha had a lot of strong feelings about social issues that aligned with my own. And, I love Anusha’s energy! We had some of the BEST talks in the Family & West Halls Office! I miss those days!

 I didn’t really have traditional friends in Commerce. I was in an odd situation living so far from an actual city, attending a mostly online graduate program, working 50+ hour weeks, and not being able to cultivate normal friendships with those around me because almost everyone I was close with either worked with me, worked for me, or lived in my buildings. So, out of this strange space came some wonderful supervisor/friend hybrid relationships with a few special students in my life. Anusha was one of those students!

Anusha was a Front Desk Assistant and, then, manager in my various buildings while I worked as a Graduate Hall Director. Not every student you supervise simply “gets it” – “gets” professionalism, “gets” how to complete a task fully, “gets” how to properly answer a phone and take a message. I know this stuff sounds silly, but because Anusha “got it” from day one, I was able to spend lots of time in friendly conversation because she was so well-prepared and efficient. I also got to get to know Anusha through her leadership in campus organizations – some with which I worked closely.

Although we don’t stay in close touch, Anusha and I stay connected through social media. She is so supportive of my aspirations and hustles. I truly appreciate her! And, I look forward to staying in contact so I can see the amazing things she will do.

Anusha graduated in 2013 and is now focusing on obtaining her Masters in Organizational Development/Leadership with a medical business emphasis. With this course of study, she is creatively combining “the best of two worlds” to please both her parents and herself!

Oh, and this bio would not be complete without mentioning that Anusha loves basketball! I am not a big sports fan but I love this girl’s passion for her San Antonio Spurs! She also has a thirst for knowledge and passion for social issues and international affairs.

Anusha says that her life has always been the best of two worlds; i.e. blending the western lifestyle of the United States along with the traditional, ancient customs of India. She says, “I can’t fathom my life in any other way but it definitely is a unique mix that I’m continuously learning more about as I continue on this path of life”.

Anusha is inspired by people creating positive change and independent women. Read more about what and who inspires Anusha and some great advice to her younger self below.  

 What Inspires You?

“I enjoy reading or hearing about individuals or events around the world where people are standing up for themselves or causing positive changes to society and ultimately just getting a different perspective on various topics and how people live their lives in general.”

Who are women in your life or throughout history who inspire you?

“My mom is the woman I look up to the most. She didn’t have a traditional higher education and grew up in a small village in India but she has the biggest heart in the world and treats every individual with equal respect and kindness.”

“Any independent woman who is working hard and doing what they need to do to be happy and live their lives to the fullest. From Hillary Clinton for shining light on various issues effecting women in the developing world, Indira Gandhi the longest serving female prime minister of India who immensely changed the way women were treated in India, random women that are featured on blogs like Humans of New York that are positively living their lives to their heart’s content and even you, Cat, for your strong hustle in accomplishing your goals and realistic outlook and perspective on the world around us!” [Thanks, Anusha!]

If you had one piece of advice to your younger self, what would it be and why?

“Create and follow your own dreams and stop trying to please your parents and societal/cultural norms of an Indian American female. Life is short and if you aren't living every day happily and striving to accomplish your own goals then you aren't living up to your potential and what you in your heart know to be true. Don’t worry what others think and do you!”

 

This March, I am celebrating all the amazing women around me! Sharing women who have influenced me and make up my personal history. As the month goes on, you can see all my Inspiring Women posts here!

INSPIRING WOMEN: Susun Xiong

Susun Xiong is one of my closest friends. I love our deep conversations, travel adventures, and empowering exchanges! I was fortunate to forge the most amazing friendships while in college at Hamline University. Susun is part of that friend group for me! (Spoiler alert, about a third of women I’ve included in this project are connected to my Hamline experience.)  

Susun is ambitious, persistent, unapologetic, kind, caring, dependable, and an incredibly thoughtful friend.

We became close toward the end of our college years having spent time together working for the McVay Youth Partnership, being part of Hamline’s NCORE team, and sitting next to each other in our Biology of Women course. It is certainly our experiences educating ourselves about and advocating for racial justice with NCORE that solidified our friendship. Susun and I attended NCORE (the National Conference on Race and Ethnicity in Higher Education) twice together. First in 2009 as part of Hamline’s NCORE team and then in 2011 where we presented a Pre-Conference Institute. This experience, the May after I graduated, was the perfect endcap to my time at Hamline.

Susun and I both value travel and we subscribe to the notion that you make time for what and who is important to you. In 2012, I traveled to South Korea to visit Susun on JeJu Island where she was working as an English teacher. Since then, she’s visited me in Commerce, TX and here in New Orleans, LA. In April, I’m excited to be visiting her in Chicago! Those of you who have done a lot of traveling know that sometimes even the best of friends don’t make the best travel buddies. This is not the case with Susun! I would travel the world with this woman!

As you’ll see in her responses in the second half of this post, Susun is mindful, conscious and critical. Our conversations are always on another level. I admire her thoughtfulness and commitment to self-care. Susun is always checking in with quick notes, messages, or texts and also sends the most thoughtful gifts. I value her love and support in my life.

Susun currently lives in Chicago with her wonderful boyfriend and is pursuing her master’s and PhD in Disability Studies at UIC. She has a strong passion for community organizing and dismantling injustices. And, she says she is still learning.  I’m impressed by Susun’s dedication to her academic pursuits and know that her field is incredibly fortunate to have a scholar and practitioner like Susun.

Susun is inspired by moments in life – both big and small—and improving the world and lives around her. Read her thoughts on inspiration, empowering women, and words of wisdom below:

 What inspires you? What do you care about deeply?

"Life is inspiring. Moments of connection, deep/long/conscious conversations, learning and hearing about people’s passions, seeing people make positive changes, traveling, music, sunshine, self awareness, crafts, and the reality of injustice. There are so many things that I find inspiring and it is always a pleasant surprise to let moments be the inspiration. I feel that experiences (i.e., life) is contextual so what inspired me yesterday, may not be what inspires me tomorrow. Rather than seeking out inspiration, be open to it, try various things such as “Shots of Awe” youtube videos, TED Talks, journaling, dancing spontaneously at an art gallery, smiling and laughing more, taking a moment to be present, take time to appreciate those around you, etc…

 I care about connection, bettering the world and lives around me. I care about becoming the best version of myself and ensuring that I help create a space for others to do the same. Contributing to better lives is sometimes thought of as “too ambitious, too big of a task” however, I like to think about it in ways that are realistic and achievable for where I am at presently. An example would be a writing a thoughtful letter to a loved one to express what you admire about them or sharing resources such as wellness books, podcasts, etc."

Who are women in your life or throughout history who inspire you?

"I have so many women in my life and throughout history that I admire and am inspired by. My mother, sisters, friends, and mentors are women in my life that inspire me. My mother was a very serious woman when I was growing up but often showed her love through lectures on life, acts of kindness, and by expecting my siblings and me to be responsible/ respectful. It’s wonderful to now see her smiling and laughing more since she’s more trusting of us as adults. The conversations I’ve had with my sisters, friends and mentors inspire me because they are honest conversations. We talk about our struggles, we ask one another for help, there is often lack of judgment, we laugh, we teach, and celebrate one another’s successes."

If you had one piece of advice to your younger self, what would it be and why?

"Practice radical self-love, self-care and self-awareness regularly (and sooner). Remember self-love (i.e., intentionally investing in yourself) is not a selfish act. It is necessary! In the past (and at times now), I’ve neglected my own needs for others’ or other things such as school, organizations and work. I worked myself so hard during undergrad that I nearly burnt out by my senior year and became bitter. Learning to listen to yourself and your needs is essential and allows you to fully love and invest in others and in passions. I find that when I practice self-care regularly, I am less stressed out and better able to respond proactively to frustrating experiences (i.e., I am happier!!!). Self-love and self-care can be as simple as taking ten minutes to meditate, or compiling a short list of highlights from the day or a bath with candles. Self-love and self-care are intentional acts and require self-awareness."

This March, I am celebrating all the amazing women around me! Sharing women who have influenced me and make up my personal history. As the month goes on, you can see all my Inspiring Women posts here!

INSPIRING WOMEN: Lilly Polivoda

As I start off the month of March, the first woman I want to celebrate is one of the original women in my circle – my sister, Lilly. She’s my sister so, obviously she’s amazing! And, as she likes to say, is a legend!

When Lilly was in elementary school she told our mom that when she grew up she wanted to be a legend. Even then she knew she would make a mark on the world. At the time she says she was probably thinking more along the lines of the first woman to play in the NFL - clearly that didn't work out ;). Although her path is perhaps different than what she initially envisioned, she is appreciating the journey rather than the destination. Lilly is smart, stylish, driven, strong, funny, and the best little sister!

I have loved growing up with a sister. I literally can’t imagine life without her. Our sisterhood grew to friendship as a direct result of our parent’s divorce. Long weekend’s at Dad’s meant lots of cable TV and sister bonding time. Honestly, most of my sisterly memories relate to giggle attacks and inside jokes. So. Many. Inside jokes. . . My senior year of high school, Lilly was a freshman and we shared my locker together in the senior hallway. It was fun having a little sister who was so cool and got along with all of my people.

I love how Lilly and I turned out having lots of similar ideas and beliefs about life. Somehow our conservative, religious, and loving parents concocted the perfect parenting blend to create incredibly open, socially conscious and critical ladies with true entrepreneurial spirits and “create your own opportunities” attitudes.

I love that my sister always has my back. I think we both subscribe to the typical sibling “I might complain about my sister sometimes but no one is allowed to utter any kind of disrespect toward her in my presence” – policy. And, although it’s been known to bug me sometimes, I love how Lilly simply gives no fucks about things she gives no fucks about. And, consequently, cares immensely and deeply about what she does care about. Related. . .don’t mess with and/or underestimate the Polivoda sisters.

Lilly is currently in Montana continuing her education to eventually earn a PhD in Neuroscience. I am happy about this for many reasons and only one is selfish – potential trips to Glacier National Park which is quite possibly the most beautiful place in the United States. I am proud that Lilly is pursuing her passions and dreams in an environment that is perfect for her. I have no doubt she will create opportunities and achieve wild success as she lives her passions.

What inspires Lilly?

Lilly is inspired by people following their dreams!

"People following their goals, passions and dreams regardless of what anyone else has to say about it. 
I care deeply about following your intuition and not going against what you feel is right for yourself.
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What advice would you give your younger self?

"I honestly wouldn't give myself any advice. I'd be too stubborn to take it. Even if 35 year old Lilly came to me and gave me advice I would still need to learn through experience."
 

Lilly’s final advice is simply golden. Read this and then reread it! I couldn’t agree more:

Go do what you love to do. The thing that you can’t shut up about and you word-vomit all over people about. If you don’t know what that thing is, try new things. Stop worrying, worrying is pointless. When you’re out in the world not holding back and doing what you’re supposed to be doing everything will magically fall into place. It might not work out exactly the way you had envisioned but it WILL work out. The fun part about life is that it happens for you and not to you, YOU CREATE YOUR LIFE.
— Lilly Polivoda

Here’s how you can find my sis on social media:
Blog: www.lillythelegend.com
Twitter: https://twitter.com/LillyTheLegend
Instagram: http://instagram.com/lillythelegend

This March, I am celebrating all the amazing women around me! It’s only fitting that my beautiful sister starts off the celebration! As the month goes on, you can see all my Inspiring Women posts here!

IN A FUNK? 10 Small Ways To Kick Crabbiness

Last week I was in a funk. And, this week has been dangerous funk territory. For me, being in a funk means feeling crabby and unmotivated for no apparent reason.  I’ve compiled a short list of things I do to jolt myself out of a funk and work to kick crabbiness. Use this list when you're having a crab attack! ;) 

  1. Blast music and sing along.
    I usually do this in the car. And, I drive an old, crappy car with no other music capabilities than the radio. So, sometimes this means belting out mumble singing to pop songs I don't know the words to.

     

  2. Exercise.
    Take a walk! Go to Zumba. Swim. Stretch. Have a personal dance party. Endorphins are real, folks. Very, very real.

     

  3. Drink water.
    And maybe a coffee or diet coke. But then, more water! I feel like over 50% of problems in life are probably because we’re somewhat dehydrated. (This is not real science but, what I like to call, “Cat Science” - meaning, a mixture things I’ve heard but cannot site and my intuition.)

     

  4. Make sure you've eaten.
    Related – make sure you’ve eaten the most recent meal. And, if not, fix that quick!

     

  5. Put a deadline on your crabby.
    One of my friends taught me this. If you’re going to feel an emotion let yourself feel it intensely but give it a deadline. When the deadline comes – honor it and move on!

     

  6. Journal.
    You can write to vent about what’s going on in your world and/or list the things you are be grateful for.

     

  7. Reminder: negative just brings more negative.
    Remind yourself that positive brings positive & negative brings negative. When I am crabby EVERYTHING goes wrong. For instance, first I’m stubbing my toe, then I’m out of almond milk, then my eye pencil is dull and there is no sharpener in sight, then I get in the car to go to work and forget that I’m on E. Right? Bad energy just brings more bad stuff! So, it's good to remind ourselves of this as a push in the right direction.

     

  8.  Watch a funny show or standup on Netflix.
    My personal recommendations include Parks & Recreation and Aziz Ansari stand up. I also recommend “Dads dancing to Uptown Funk” videos on YouTube. I have no idea why but they just crack me up. . .every single time. (I watched it again while linking it here and am currently laughing out loud.)

     

  9.  Go to bed.
    And, vow that you’ll let your pissed-off attitude go by morning.   

     

  10. Clean or organize.
    Clean your apartment/office/room and listen to music or a podcast while you do it!

 

What kinds of things do you do to get yourself out of a funk? Let me know in the comments below!

RECOMMENDED RESOURCES: My Three Favorite Online Resources for Budding Entrepreneurs

I have been on my hustle working to cultivate my passion projects into sustaining entrepreneurial endeavors. At this point, I have relied almost exclusively on free content from some amazing movers and shakers. I have been learning so much and continue to do so each time I engage with these quality content providers.  

I am absorbing (almost) all of their content for free and I acknowledge that I should be providing more in return. I’m not at a point where I can do so monetarily, so I am sharing the love with them and y’all by highlighting their resources.

I am sharing them with you for two main reasons: 1) because I believe knowledge is power and 2) I want to encourage you to check out their helpful and informative content.

Currently, my three favorite online resources for budding entrepreneurs are: Marie Forleo, The $100 MBA, and ByRegina.

Marie Forleo

Marie Forleo is the essence of a “woman on a mission”! She is one of the first resources I found as I started cultivating my business and thinking about expanding my brand. She is positive and empowering from every piece of information she shares to her female-centered and socially conscious business practices.

Marie offers content to help others “create a business and life you love”. She shares videos on MarieTV that are full of helpful and relevant info for entrepreneurs. Marie’s content is on another level; it’s so put together and polished while still remaining fun!  Marie also runs an amazing program called B-School – an online business school for modern entrepreneurs.

Ooo, and I haven’t gotten through this yet, but Marie just shared this really helpful post about free info for entrepreneurs and startups!

$100 MBA

The $100 MBA is an online course and community as well as a podcast. Omar Zenhom and Nicole Baldinu run this informative enterprise.  I got hooked through the podcast which shares quick business lessons in a way that’s very easy to understand! Most podcasts are around 10 -15 minutes long – so they’re in really digestible segments. And, the sponsors they pub are also really helpful! For instance, Squarespace was the sponsor of several episodes and they offered a 10% discount for $100 MBA listeners! As you may realize, my blog is hosted through Squarespace which has enabled me to have a beautiful website – even with my low tech skills!

Recently, Nicole and Omar announced that they are releasing a webinar platform and a new podcast dedicated to webinars called Webinar Ninja. I could not be more excited! I would love to share webinars with y’all and am very interested in learning about their platform as a possible way to do so!

Finally, both Omar and Nicole have responded to my tweets or Facebook posts.  It’s cool to see entrepreneurs who are “practicing what they preach” in this way! And, it’s really helpful!

ByRegina

ByRegina is run by Regina Anaejionu. Through her blog, she provides a wealth of information about blogging and running a creative business. Her posts were really influential as I put together my blog. She shares high level information in a way that is conversational and easy to understand! I LOVE how she shares reports on how much revenue she has generated from her blog and related entrepreneurial endeavors. It’s so honest and really helps me see how I can get where I want to go.

Out of these three, Regina is the only one from whom I’ve purchased materials. I purchased her Epic Blog Planner – still working through to it and making plans. I also purchased her Small Business Manual & Workbook. I recommend both books –especially the Epic Blog Planner! Ooo, and Regina has also responded to me over Twitter and Instagram!

Grateful for These Opportunities

For any of you who are also working on your side hustles and entrepreneurial game, I highly recommend each of these resources! If you know of any other great content providers, please share in the comments below!

 

 

MY PERFECT DAY: 10 Years From Now

Last weekend I attended a New Leaders Council Institute retreat. I recently was selected as a fellow for this progressive leadership and professional development institute. I am already loving my involvement with NLC. Our first institute weekend was a retreat focused on life entrepreneurship. With a phenomenal facilitator, an amazing group of like-minded young professionals, and lots of thought-provoking reflections and activities, our retreat was everything I was hoping for. (Yes! Yes! Yes!)

One of my favorite activities was writing about our perfect day – ten years from now. I had never taken the time to do this or think about the manifestation of my goals in this way. We were encouraged to be as specific as possible and provide lots of detail to make our vision seem more real. (Quality goal setting and visioning stuff here, folks!)

I am really excited about what I created as part of this exercise. So much so that I’m sharing it with you! I’ll also provide some information about how you might do the same at the end of this post. (As I was writing, it seemed like a looser timeline might be more realistic – so I’m thinking about this in an 8 – 10 year context.) Anyway, without further adieu, my perfect day several years down the road. . .

 

My Perfect Day: In 8 -10 Years

I wake up around 7AM in our small but spacious London flat. I hop out of bed and do some light stretching. My partner is already up with the kids and I can hear them in the next room. As I stretch I think about how London feels like home after a little over two years living in this vibrant city. And, how I will be sad to leave soon but am excited to return back home to the states in time for our oldest to start first grade next fall.

After ten minutes of stretching, I go out to join the rest of my family in the living room where our two beautiful children, ages 3 and 5, are laughing and playing with their daddy. I give each a kiss and sit down with them all as they play.

After a little while, my man gets them dressed and ready for the day while I make breakfast - eggs and bacon for the family along with overnight oats and fruit. Right as we finish eating, our nanny, Lena, arrives to take our oldest off to kindergarten.  I greet Lena in German and the kids are obviously excited that she's here.

Our nanny is an amazing, creative Turkish German woman who spends time with the little ones during the weekdays. We pay her well and feel like she's an extension of our family.  Kindergarten is walking distance from our home and serves a diverse group of children. Our youngest also joins Lena and the three head out the door and make their way to kindergarten. Lena will return with the youngest after some quality play time in the park and watch her till early afternoon.

With the kids out of the house, my partner and I clear the breakfast dishes and then hop in the shower to start our day. Once dressed, we pop down the street to our favorite coffee shop. The owner greets us by name and presents us with the perfect cafe lattes.  I take one sugar. He takes 4.

From the coffee shop we part ways.  I return home to get some work done. It's Friday so I have a weekly Zumba class at noon and then lunch plans with a friend. I want to get all of my "taking care of business" matters complete by 11AM.

By now it's 9AM. I sit in my small office in our home. First, I check in with my shop in the US. I am doing mostly follow-up as I recently returned from a trip to the states where I spend several days checking in on the store, doing a few speaking engagements, and catching up with friends. I was pleased to find that my plus-size consignment shop was running quite smoothly.  I spend a lot of time training the staff and it has clearly paid off. Even in my absence, they've been doing outstanding. Although it was hard for me to let go of most of the control, it's proven to be a great move. My two key managers have simply blown me away with their dedication and creativity. I feel like we've achieved my foundational business practice of "women supporting women” and I am not only proud of my shop but the values on which it’s founded.

I also finalize travel plans for two upcoming workshop engagements. Then, I brainstorm curriculum for a Women's Leadership Retreat that I'll be hosting in two months. 54 women have already signed up, so I am reworking several parts of the curriculum to accommodate the larger group.

Just before 11AM, I head off to Zumba. Before I go, I chat with Lena about her weekend plans and remind her about some yummy leftovers in the fridge that she and the 3 year old can enjoy for lunch.

The weather is cool but not cold. I just need a jacket in addition to my curve-hugging sports leggings and bright Nike tennis shoes. The walk to the tube is great. I love the fresh air and I’m entertained by the podcast I’m listening to. I get on the underground and arrive at my gym within 20 minutes. It's great to catch up with some of the other regulars at the gym. Zumba is amazing and I kill it - like usual – and stare my sexy self down in the mirror the whole time.

I shower at the gym and transform my previously sporty look into something effortlessly fabulous. I leave the gym and head off to meet a close London friend for lunch at one of our favorite spots. Other days of the week I have coaching clients in the afternoon. Some over the phone and a few in person. But, on Friday, I don't schedule any meetings. After lunch, I settle in at a coffee shop to read and journal.

Close to 4PM I head home. My husband has picked our oldest up at school and has relieved Lena of her duties. He's home chilling with the kids when I return. I get to preparing a nutritious and delicious dinner for us. We spend several hours as a family enjoying dinner, playing and reading with the kids, and ending with a family dance party. After we put the kids to bed, my man and I sit on the couch enjoying a drink and talking about the weekend ahead.

Tomorrow, we plan to take the kids to a community rally in the park and spend the first part of the day out and about as a family. Lena has graciously agreed to watch the kids tomorrow night so we can enjoy an evening out.  Our conversation then wanders to our preliminary moving plans and excitements about being back in the states.

We watch a little crime drama TV and then head off to bed together. I feel happy, fulfilled, and complete – feelings that have slowly become more present as I have settled into my full and fabulous life.

 

Is this not the most fun!? Obviously my life may not be exactly like this in 8 years, but we know that the act of visualizing yourself after you have completed goals put you in a place where you're more likely to achieve them. That's one of the reasons why this activity is so powerful. Also, I wrote about things that I didn't realize were important to me - especially all of that that kid business! That's one of those "in the back of my mind" goals that I don't really think too much about.

Have you ever described your vision like this?

I encourage you to spend some time with an exercise like this! We had a whole weekend of reflection as we explored our strengths, passions, values, and purpose and this exercise was kind of a culmination of this. (Much of our training was based on the book Life Entrepreneurs which would be a great resource if you want some of the activities that lead up to this.) Even without the preceding activities, the act of writing out your perfect day can still be powerful.

In writing this, I have become even more motivated to map out my goals in a way that allows them to build and grow on each other.  In the spirit of long-term goal setting and linking our shorter term goals to the longer ones, I'd like to share a recourse I've created that might help you do this!

This Goal Setting & Action Planning Resource is a simple way to write out a long term goal and then backtrackto list smaller goals along the way. There's also some room to start thinking about an action plan or the ways you will work to achieve each shorter term goal. This sheet totally reflects how my brain works! Use this resource if it's helpful to you!

Wow, I've sure been sharing a lot with y'all! Hope that in doing so it's helping you visualize what you want in your life and how you might get there!

BIRTHDAY CELEBRATION: Cat's Closet is One!

This week, Cat’s Closet is one year old! I literally just fell into small business ownership and am now moving and shaking in ways I’ve always wanted to. In this post, I’m excited to share a bit about Cat’s Closet, my progression over this past year, and my vision for the future! 

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How Cat's Closet Started

Last year, in an effort to clean out my closet and make a little money, I decided I wanted to post some clothing items on eBay. (I had done this once before – mainly with accessories—before I studied abroad years ago.) I knew I needed to take photos wearing my clothes because I always am more interested in clothing when I can see it on another curvy woman. After I took pictures, I decided to throw them in a Facebook album to see if anyone I knew wanted them before I went to the trouble of posting on eBay. I made the album public and shared widely.  A few days later, I had made $300 and sold most of my items.

The extra cash was nice but, more importantly, it truly brought me joy to share great clothing items with other plus-size women in my life. And, even through my first interactions with women in my circle, I could tell that they were gaining more than clothes from me – I was also able to share some body positive inspiration with them. So, I knew I was on to something! Now, Cat’s Closet has grown into a whole operation. I regularly thrift and shop to find quality clothing, style it in outfits, take pictures, post it for y’all to purchase, and ship to folks all over the country. 

Developments & Resources Along the Way! 

I have literally learned everything as I go. Those of you who have followed me from the start have seen growth in many parts of Cat’s Closet this past year. Although I won’t share all the intricacies of my business, I have lots of resources to recommend and shoutouts to share!

Facebook: Cat’s Closet started on Facebook as a personal album and then quickly became a fan page. For the first several months, all orders happened through Facebook and Facebook messenger - and PayPal. (Although the website makes my life soooo much easier, I do miss the convos I had with all of y’all over FB messenger. Thanks to those of you who still drop me a line via FB from time to time!)

Big Cartel: I use Big Cartel as the platform for my shop. There is a fee involved with this site but it’s simple for me to operate – which is important to me. It’s also pretty user friendly – in my opinion. I chose Big Cartel because I had seen other folks use it (including my sister). I am pretty satisfied with this site but, full disclosure, now that my blog is hosted by Squarespace – which I LOVE – I may consider switching my shop over to their e-commerce capabilities. (Shoutout to my mom for helping me set my Big Cartel site up. It is nice to have a computer programmer mom in your back pocket sometimes!)

USPS Flat Rate Packages: It took me a minute to discover these! Flat rate packages make my life so much easier!  As those of you who order from me know, I don’t print out shipping and just get packages picked up. I hand write all addresses and go to the post office for every package! I might change this at some point but I actually enjoy visiting the PO most times – especially the one closest to my house. (Shoutout to the New Orleans Uptown Post Office on Louisiana Ave!)

Closet Features: Closet features have added a splash of excitement into my site! Essentially, women consign their clothes with me. (Meaning, I sell them to y’all and we both get a portion of the profits.) I’ve been able to do closet features for local folks and others who have mailed me their clothes. As you may have seen on my site, sometimes the person featured wears the clothes and sometimes I do – whatever they’re most comfortable with! (Shoutouts to Ashley, Pamela, Amanda, and Barhynn for allowing me to feature their fab items this past year!) If you are interested in doing a closet feature, just contact me and I’ll give you details so we can see if it’s right for you!)

Photography Developments: A huge development for me was switching from selfies to regular photos! It offers a better look at my items and better quality photos but also makes posting more time consuming because I need to enlist someone else to help (or, struggle with a tripod). Shoutouts to Amanda, Emily Horne Photography, Toni, and my boyfriend for taking pics for me on the regular. (Biggest shoutout goes to my boyfriend who does not usually get compensated with cash, clothing, or lunch like the others ;)!) Oh! And, as you saw in my Holiday Photo Shoot – incorporating others into my photos was so much fun! (Shoutouts to Stephanie, Amanda, Ari, Emily, Ready to Stare, and Jou Jou My Love for their involvement with that greatness!)

What’s next? 

I am actively working to expand my brand. The fact that you’re reading this on my blog is an indication of this! I see Cat’s Closet as just one branch of my Cat Inspired ventures. (For a peak of everything I’m currently working on, check out this page of my blog!)

I could go on and on about my vision, goals, dreams, and plans. The brief overview of my business-related goals includes growing as a business woman, dramatically boosting my online presence, launching life coaching, sharing Cultural Care with more families, and continuing to grow and develop Cat’s Closet. Longer term goals include organizing and facilitating Women’s Leadership Retreats, writing a book, and opening a brick and mortar plus-size thrift store.

In term of Cat’s Closet, I’ll be a bit more specific! Here are a few ways I’m looking to grow in the upcoming year:

  • I plan to do several in-person shopping events this year. (St. Paul & Chicago are on my list first!)
  • I want to continue to grow my social media presence and share great stuff with y’all. I’m looking to hit 5K+ this year on Instagram, become more popular on Pinterest, and continue to grow on Facebook but under my overarching brand Cat Inspired (name change hopefully coming soon)!
  • I’d love to find opportunities to do larger posts in an effort to move items more quickly in my shop – searching for the time to make that happen!
  • Plus, let’s be real, I’d love to make more money and become more savvy in my business tactics. (Although I dedicate a LOT of time to Cat’s Closet, it’s not yet close to a place where it could be my main source of income.) 

Interested in Doing Something Similar?

I’ve had at least 20 women contact me over the past year asking for advice or info about how they can start their own business like mine. First of all, I want to acknowledge that although I am quite flattered when people reach out to me, I don’t feel comfortable sharing every detail about my business.  In fact, this post is probably the most details you’ll get from me!

Perhaps at a later time I will make myself available to consult for advice on these types of business for a fee, but I don’t think it’s fair to me or others if I just hand you all of my business strategies so you can recreate what I have developed.

Here are my words of advice:

  1. If you only have your own items to sell, I would strongly recommend doing a personal Instagram or Facebook album. (Or, host a clothing swap and trade clothes with friends!) You’ll run out of items very quickly. I have a whole operation happening over here. I thrift at least once a week, take pictures regularly, and dedicate a lot of time to social media and promotion. It's likley not worth all of that if you have 50 items or less and don't plan to actively seek more. (You can always consider collaborating with me and doing a Closet Feature. Contact me for details!)
  2.  Imitation is NOT the sincerest form of flattery. If you like what you see and want to do something similar, I totally support you in your efforts. I believe in a world where we can all succeed and make it in our respective passions and hustles! But, please don’t replicate every detail of my business. I cannot support that as I don't think it is fair to me or you! Use your passion, creativity, and personal touch to make something of your own! 
  3.  As general business advice, I’d like to share a quote from Marie Forleo (who is, btw, just awesome). She says: “Never start a business to just ‘make money’. Start a business to make a difference." I live by this and bring it to all of my entrepreneurial endeavors. I encourage you to do the same! 

Wow, what a year it’s been!

Honesty, in early January 2014 I had no idea that I would be writing about this today. I am really proud of myself and grateful for all of the support around me!  Which reminds me - additional shoutouts to all the folks in my life who let me gush about my small business excitements! And, the biggest shoutouts to all of my AMAZING CUSTOMERS!!  Y’all are truly the best!! It brings me so much joy to be able to engage with you!!

DEALS So You Can Celebrate With Me! 

Oh, and how could I forget!? I have some fun promotions going on this week to celebrate Cat’s Closet’s birthday! They include:

 

Thanks!
And, I'd LOVE to Hear From You! 

So, now you know about where I've been and my plans for the future, I 'd love your feedback! What do you hope to see from me through Cat's Closet and Cat Inspired in the year to come!? 

Thanks so much to all of you for your support! 

WELCOMING 2015 WITH INTENTION - Part 4: Infusing Self Love into Your Everyday Life

I'm excited to share the final part of my Welcoming 2015 With Intention series. In this video, I share five ways to infuse self love into your daily life. Loving yourself can help you be a stronger, happier, and more confident person.  I hope these tips will help bring some more self love into your life. 

In the video, I highlight these five ways to infuse self love into your everyday life: 

 
  1. Practice positive self talk.
  2. Create & display positive reminders of self love.
  3. Don't say negative things about other people.
  4. Prioritize yourself above everything else.
  5. Advocate for yourself. 

I hope this series has given you a glimpse of what I have to share.  As I mention in the video, in these four videos, I have just scratched the surface!

With Cat's Closet, I am able to share body positive messages and fatshion & style inspiration. With this blog, I hope to continue to share about those themes and add a lot more content related to self-development, as well as lifestyle topics and some general sassiness in all areas!

Thanks for viewing and listening!  

WELCOMING 2015 WITH INTENTION: Part 3 - Health & Wellness

In part three of my series Welcoming 2015 With Intention, I share my thoughts and tips for embracing health and wellness! Many folks vow to "get healthy" in the new year! Unfortunately, for many people, "get healthy" is code for "lose weight". Well, not for me!  If you're thinking about health and wellness in the new year, this blog post shares some ways you can approach health in a supportive, body positive, loving way!  

Health and weight-loss are not the same thing! 

In case this is something new to you, health and weight-loss simply do not go hand in hand.  I am a strong believer in the Health at Every Size movement. Many folks have broken this info down better than I have, so I encourage you to take a look here and here. Plus, some thoughts on the weight-loss resolution trap here

Listen to your body and do more of what feels good! 

Like I've mentioned before, I believe our wisdom lies within. Our bodies know what we want and need. It's just a matter of listening and doing it! 

Think about wellness holistically! 

Health and wellness is so much more than just exercise and nutrition. I encourage you to think about health holistically. To consider all components of wellness, I like to use a wellness wheel. Take a look at the image to the right and feel free to look at this presentation that I modified from something I created for my day job. It goes in detail to describe each area of wellness. 

No need to label yourself as "good" or "bad" when talking about your actions. Just say what you mean! 

I think my example in the video says it all. You are valuable, good, worthy, and deserving. While your actions may be positive or negative, they don't make you a good or a bad person.  And, just say what you mean! 

Love your body! 

Let your love for your body and yourself motivate your healthy habits! Don't get caught up in the negative and scary cycle of making "health" choices out of anger or hate or shame or dislike for your body! 

WELCOMING 2015 WITH INTENTION - Part 2: Goal Setting

In the new year, we often make goals and resolutions. (I prefer making goals because I believe they are more thoughtful and action oriented than resolutions.) In the second part of my video series on Welcoming 2015 With Intention, I share a few ways you can set yourself up for success to create goals that you can achieve! Plus, I share one of my big goals for 2015. Take a look at my video below! 

5 TIPS FOR GOAL SETTING 

  1. Get a clear vision. 
  2. Set S.M.A.R.T goals. 
  3. Create an action plan. 
  4. Write your goals down & review them often.
  5. BONUS: Share your goals with someone who can help hold you accountable. 
 

I love the idea that "goals are dreams with deadlines"! I don't know about you, but I have lots of dreams, goals, and plans! I hope my quick video has provided some tools for you as you set goals and work to realize them!

What goals are you setting out to achieve this year? Let me know in the comments below!